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A Reading & You

How to make the most of a reading, and what to expect

So you're about to have a reading...

When it comes to getting a psychic reading, it's important to keep in mind that the experience can be exciting yet overwhelming. Expectations and emotions can run high, and it's easy to get caught up in the excitement of it all. However, it's crucial to remain grounded, and needless to say, both the reader, and the querent (you), should have a mutual respect for one another.


If you feel that you do not have a good connection with the reader within the first few minutes, stop the reader, and kindly let them know that their energy is not jiving with yours. This will save time and headache for you both, and the reader will and should respect your wish to stop the reading and you both can go in peace. At this point, if payment has been made, it should be refunded as well.

Another important point is to hold any questions until the end of the reading. This helps the reader stay in their state and provide you with the most accurate information possible. It's also important to remember that a reading should help you navigate the gunk in life, but it's not about telling you how to live your life or what to do. Instead, it should be a tool to help you gain clarity and make decisions. Sometimes, all you needed was affirmation, and I've found that being given that affirmation is everything the client needed.

Another key point to keep in mind is that a reading should be about you, not others. It's easy to get caught up in questions about other people in your life, but the focus should be on your own journey. The reason for this is respect and privacy for another. If someone went to a reader about you, and was prying the reader for answers about you, then that would feel like a violation of your privacy, right? The reader may ask you to focus your thoughts and intentions, and to think only of yourself. This helps to ensure that the reading is as accurate and helpful as possible. This is not to say that the Universe won't provide answers or information regarding others, but it's more about how they impact you, and less about why they are doing what they are doing.

In summary, getting a psychic reading can be an exciting experience, but it's important to approach it with respect and a clear understanding of what it can and cannot do. By keeping these tips in mind, you can get the most out of your reading and use it as a tool to navigate life's challenges, and be set on a path of affirmation and healing.

What a reading should be

When seeking a reading, it's important to keep in mind that it should be a tool to help you navigate through the gunk in life. However, that doesn't mean it has to be a serious or somber experience. In fact, a reading can be fun and even entertaining. Laughter and joy can uplift the soul and make the experience more personalized and enjoyable.

It's also important to remember that a reading should not make you feel trapped or afraid. It should not be seen as the "be-all and end-all" solution to all your problems. Rather, it should be viewed as a helpful guide to assist you in making decisions and navigating through life's challenges.

A reading should be about you, it should leave you feeling uplifted and empowered, rather than fearful or uncertain. So, when seeking a reading, be sure to keep these things in mind and choose a reader who aligns with your values and intentions.

Mutual Respect & The Hot Seat

A querent should have questions prepared before a reading, but should refrain from asking questions until after the reading is complete. A querent should allow the reader to keep the flow of the reading going, and refrain from interrupting with questions. This ensures a good flow, it allows the reader to be more accurate, and prevents the reader from being pulled out of their reading state.

I only say this because it simply assures that you get what you are paying for. You can however affirm what the reader is saying, and this will help to energize the reading further. 

That being said, a reader may ask for confirmation or affirmation because a situation may require a little more care, or be more complex and/or delicate. Please do be honest, and do not be afraid to tell the reader "No" or "I don't know" if something does not make sense. Sometimes you may forget about something, something may have yet to occur, or something is not immediately apparent, and that's okay! This is why you receive a recording, and normally a reader will either dig deeper, rephrase or stick with what they are saying because that's the energy and vibe of the reading, and what the method of divination is telling them.


Mutual respect is important, and if you just had a reading and did not get an answer you liked, so you go see another reader, or you are there to only "test" the reader, then the energies may not work very well for you and you'll leave a reading feeling confused and frustrated. Likewise, a reader should be mindful of the querent, and what they may be navigating through, and work ethically, honestly, and build trust. Trust me when I say, give yourself time and allow your feelings and thoughts to process if you are uncertain about a reading you had; do not rush into a reading if you are in crisis mode and feel the need to seek answers out of desperation, and do refrain jumping from reader to reader because another reader gave you an answer you did not agree with. None of these circumstances pan out in your favour, and so I emphasize, please do give time and allow yourself to decompress and heal if need be before seeking a reading.

Finally, as a querent on the hot seat, you should be able to feel the energy of a reader and vice versa. Sometimes either a reader or querent can feel the energy isn't really flowing and that's okay too. If need be, do not be afraid to let the reader know (or a reader will let you know) and a decision can be made as to how to proceed. 

Love & Gratitude

I say all of the above with the utmost love, respect and humility.

At the end of the day, I only want to see you succeed, to gain profound understanding, to have more clarity, and to be able to open up a pathway to affirmation and healing.

I truly believe that in every reading, the querent receives what they need to hear. In turn, the reader can learn from every reading and every querent they meet.

In the end, it's all love and gratitude for one another and the energies received from Spirit and from the Universe.

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